tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post8980236193762642728..comments2024-02-14T02:28:27.585-07:00Comments on a fear of flying: Pictures of Pornography: JustAGuyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00466860937596192472noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-85206696841884985172008-06-04T12:20:00.001-06:002008-06-04T12:20:00.001-06:00But nosurfgirl, I didn't state it as a suggestion;...But nosurfgirl, I didn't state it as a suggestion; there is actually a correlation between high degrees of access to pornography and low amounts of rape and sexual abuse of children in society. Bizarre, but there you have it.djinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06112894520660114580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-43465304199876019962008-06-04T12:20:00.000-06:002008-06-04T12:20:00.000-06:00But nosurfgirl, I didn't state it as a suggestion;...But nosurfgirl, I didn't state it as a suggestion; there is actually a correlation between high degrees of access to pornography and low amounts of rape and sexual abuse of children in society. Bizarre, but there you have it.djinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06112894520660114580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-23373354263295321982008-05-25T21:50:00.000-06:002008-05-25T21:50:00.000-06:00It shouldn't be crumpled paper, djinn!!! I unders...It shouldn't be crumpled paper, djinn!!! <BR/><BR/>I understand your argument. I disagree with the idea that exposure to porn leads to a decrease in violent sexual crime for two reasons. <BR/><BR/>1) Rape is not a sex crime. It's a violent crime. Viewing pornography is not a violent crime. It is (in my mind) a sexual crime. Would you use the same argument about child porn, that it should Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00466860937596192472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-2180279739089356612008-05-25T21:33:00.000-06:002008-05-25T21:33:00.000-06:00Though, theoretically, I love the visual image of ...Though, theoretically, I love the visual image of the crumpled paper behind the letters on your blog, I find it difficult to read through; something less, uh, busy?djinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06112894520660114580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-6067730591774723402008-05-25T18:28:00.000-06:002008-05-25T18:28:00.000-06:00This is such an odd topic; I confess, it seems to ...This is such an odd topic; I confess, it seems to me to be completely paradoxical. After the posts at feministmormonhousewives, I did some research, summarized at my own (brand-spankin' new blog) adizzylife.blogspot.com. Basically, two countries greatly liberalized their pornography laws and saw stunning, stunning, decreases in sexual violence against woman and children. (Denmark-50%, Japan 85Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-6474336341384359932008-05-25T09:07:00.000-06:002008-05-25T09:07:00.000-06:00wanted to thank this guy for the better informed d...wanted to thank this guy for the better informed discussion DH and I have been able to have re our childrens sexuality as a consequence.I want them to feel they have every right to enjoy their own bodies within the bounds the Lord has set and with respect for all of Heavenly Fathers children without making an object of another.Another opportunity to grow in love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-83489464264516151762008-05-24T17:46:00.000-06:002008-05-24T17:46:00.000-06:00HW,sure, that works sometimes too. :)HW,<BR/><BR/>sure, that works sometimes too. :)C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06278966723822635150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-63768997421099975652008-05-24T16:31:00.000-06:002008-05-24T16:31:00.000-06:00Helpful,I thought of this, too. :)Helpful,<BR/><BR/>I thought of this, too. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00466860937596192472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-84615338952385734712008-05-24T16:19:00.000-06:002008-05-24T16:19:00.000-06:00Regarding husbands using masturbation when their w...Regarding husbands using masturbation when their wives don't want to or can't. Aren't there other ways of helping your husband be satisfied that don't require much at all from the wife, but you do it together. I am happy to satisfy my husband when he needs it and I'm not up to it. Is that not always an option for other couples?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-74213910578182767322008-05-23T22:04:00.000-06:002008-05-23T22:04:00.000-06:00I've known about sex as long as I can remember. I ...I've known about sex as long as I can remember. I began masturbating about the age of 5 (at least that I can remember). Like justaguy I tried again and again and prayed and prayed and never could stop. I finally was able to once I got married. Before that I couldn't go more than a week - It's been almost three years. I don't know what changed. Before I married I lived with someone for 4 years andAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-82136503969825810312008-05-23T11:57:00.000-06:002008-05-23T11:57:00.000-06:00"If I'm orgasming, I should be thinking of her. I ..."If I'm orgasming, I should be thinking of her. I think there must be a spiritual level function happening during orgasm and that it causes trouble if the energy isn't directed properly or something like that."<BR/><BR/>my husband feels the same way. during various periods in our marriage, particularly in late pregnancy and postpartum, and when i've had a lot of health problems, sex has been on C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06278966723822635150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-42817536960699645682008-05-22T23:20:00.000-06:002008-05-22T23:20:00.000-06:00Thanks for telling your story. As a mother of fou...Thanks for telling your story. As a mother of four, I have spent a lot of time preparing for discussions about sexuality with my children, and have already had some discussions. I appreciate hearing other people's experiences to know some things that my children might feel or go through.<BR/>I'm sure it is hard to write all that and leave yourself open to comments.<BR/>I think that marriage canAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-65662872063534640472008-05-22T21:11:00.000-06:002008-05-22T21:11:00.000-06:00Mindy,Yes, she wondered about it. She wondered if ...Mindy,<BR/><BR/>Yes, she wondered about it. She wondered if it was her fault, if she wasn't as pretty or whatever. It wasn't that at all. It's not easy for men to even figure out what it is about...<BR/><BR/>She asked me to tell her if I had been looking at it again. I tried to be open with her but there was so much shame and hurt associated with it that I was scared to. I felt like I had to get Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-45324341777651950342008-05-22T20:18:00.000-06:002008-05-22T20:18:00.000-06:00Thanks for telling your story, JustAGuy. I have a...Thanks for telling your story, JustAGuy. I have a couple boys, and it's good to know they need to know about their bodies at a much younger age than I would have thought.<BR/><BR/>happyone - do you mind if I ask if your wife ever thought it was her fault in the years you used porn? Maybe she thought that if she did have a higher sex drive, you wouldn't use porn?<BR/><BR/>I ask because I've had Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-73425869793250422712008-05-22T20:02:00.000-06:002008-05-22T20:02:00.000-06:00Putz,That's OK. Before everything happened to me ...Putz,<BR/><BR/>That's OK. Before everything happened to me I was relatively uniformed about these issues, too.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00466860937596192472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-71912964727931001062008-05-22T17:45:00.000-06:002008-05-22T17:45:00.000-06:00maybe i can't comment too much, have so little kno...maybe i can't comment too much, have so little knowledgePutzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08480109111920196513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-59032132317831207472008-05-22T17:31:00.000-06:002008-05-22T17:31:00.000-06:00If I didn't say it yet, thanks for taking the init...If I didn't say it yet, thanks for taking the initiative with this whole thing. It's great to see people talking about it. <BR/><BR/>I am also glad that we have worked things out. And it's great to finally be rid of that garbage in our lives and to have peace about it all. My wife is the best and it makes me sad when I see that she feels like she's not "a good wife" because of the mismatched Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-65994081350008643962008-05-22T17:01:00.000-06:002008-05-22T17:01:00.000-06:00makes sense, Happyone.I'm glad you guys have worke...makes sense, Happyone.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you guys have worked things out. I know lots of couples feel trapped and/or unsatisfied, because they feel unable to talk about it, or to hear the other person's needs/perspective. And it's not just the men who have the higher drives, either. I have a close friend who once bemoaned to me her dissappointment at her husband's lower sex drive, and how that Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00466860937596192472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-37527714980966166572008-05-22T16:56:00.000-06:002008-05-22T16:56:00.000-06:00I would also prefer that it not be done in the oth...I would also prefer that it not be done in the other room(usually the shower). I would of course prefer "the real thing" every time. But for me and my wife, that is just plain unrealistic and would end up with way too much pressure on her for no good reason.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-48473607619943672632008-05-22T16:42:00.000-06:002008-05-22T16:42:00.000-06:00JustAGuy,Your story could be my story almost exact...JustAGuy,<BR/><BR/>Your story could be my story almost exactly. Those who have been following <A HREF="http://www.feministmormonhousewives.org/?p=1804" REL="nofollow">the thread at fMh</A> already know how I feel about all this. I just want one chance to grieve over our mutual shame and suffering for <A HREF="http://www.blakeclan.org/jon/greenoasis/2007/03/23/masturbatory-insanity/" REL="nofollowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-31418947238110079412008-05-22T16:23:00.000-06:002008-05-22T16:23:00.000-06:00That's an interesting way of thinking of if, happy...That's an interesting way of thinking of if, happy one. Thanks for sharing. It's something we talk about so little, I think that it's hard for a lot of us to really know how we feel about various aspects of sexuality, like what you mentioned. Is masturbation ever appropriate? I know that there are couples out there who have had to use masturbation in order to find themselves capable of Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00466860937596192472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-90729242727479700052008-05-22T15:08:00.000-06:002008-05-22T15:08:00.000-06:00There is so much I want to say on this topic... I ...There is so much I want to say on this topic... I also hoped my urges and wet dreams would go away during my mission. They didn't and Europe's advertising standards didn't allow me to ignore the inputs very easily. <BR/><BR/>For me, getting married caused the problem to get worse before it got better. I have been married 8 years now and have only recently felt like I won't look at porn again. It Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-64347236342680541862008-05-22T14:56:00.000-06:002008-05-22T14:56:00.000-06:00I would also like to say thanks for JustAGuy for s...I would also like to say thanks for JustAGuy for sharing his story. Sadly, I think almost all boys/men have very similar experiences and yet no one shares. I am glad to see that might be changing. If we(good people) leave a vacuum about this the only people talking about it will be Hollywood, the porn industry and those who like to think it's good to feed every desire.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13455938.post-59456730464519050492008-05-22T12:58:00.000-06:002008-05-22T12:58:00.000-06:00Thanks for sharing your story. It is interesting t...Thanks for sharing your story. It is interesting to hear how you began to have an interest in it at such a young age. I had no idea that kids could start thinking about it then. My husband and I recently started reading, "And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage though Sexual Fulfillment." It is so far a great book. As well as addressing sexual fulfillment between couples, it has three Sarbearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00647328985785636350noreply@blogger.com